12 Nov, 2012

What I Learned from Hearts-at-Home this Weekend

I was so blessed to be able to spend the weekend in Rochester with a couple of my favorite girlfriends at the North Central Hearts-at-Home Conference.

Lesson #1- I need to get away to refocus.

The most important thing I learned was that it is so important for me to get away for a couple days each year to intentionally laugh, relax with close friends, and renew my focus on my roles as a wife and mother.

Lesson #2- A helpful little tip from the Duggars about dealing with anger.

This year, I had the special opportunity to meet Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar. I appreciate the Duggar family so much and shared some tips from Michelle about having the right response with our children a while back. This weekend, I learned another tip during the general session with the Duggars. They mentioned that in their home, if their children notice that they are beginning to get angry and speak/ act in anger, the children are encouraged to gently touch their parent’s arm and sweetly say, “Mommy, (or Daddy) I think you’re kinda getting angry.” Then, the parent’s response will be “You’re right. I’m sorry.” Blowing up with anger is one of the things that will undermine everything that we are trying to do as parents.

 Lesson #3- Fashion- the 16 point rule for accessorizing.

In Shari Braendel’s workshop, I learned that my personal style is somewhere between being a “Pure Natural” and a “Classic Modern”. I also learned how to accessorize. Fun topic for a girls’ weekend away.

Lesson #4- By wisdom a house is built.

The most important thing that I took away from this weekend, was based on a presentation by Dr. Julie Slattery. Wisdom is “always knowing the right thing to do in the moment”. Her workshop was a wonderful reminder that God defines truth. Not me.

I walked away with a renewed commitment to:

  1. Remember that nothing that we desire can even compare to wisdom
  2. Diligently ask God for wisdom
  3. Study Proverbs with my children

He who fears the Lord has a secure fortress, and for his children it will be a refuge. Proverbs 14:26 NIV

When I got back home on Saturday night, I felt refreshed and ready to jump back into motherhood- creating a home that is a refuge for my children.

How do you renew your focus and turn your heart toward home?




  • Awesome, Jen! I couldn’t make it this year so I really appreciate your cliff notes! I’m so glad you were blessed and that you passed the blessings on.

  • Great post, Jen! I need to spend more time in Proverbs with my girls.

  • this was a great reminder and what I needed to read today, thanks for putting pen to paper (fingers to keyboard…ha)

    • Thanks for reading, Jamie. I hope you’re having a fabulous week:)

  • wow!!! I am glad you were able to meet them. I am a huge fan of their family. Lucky duck.

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